I’m a butterfly having a human experience as a woman who presents Black

Image by jggrz from Pixabay — I love how this butterfly’s wings are tattered but she is still a beauty. This could be metaphor for life.

I’m also an empath, a highly sensitive person (HSP), and an INFJ, which is to say: My feelings slice deep. Caring like I do overwhelms me. And injustice and wickedness against anyone leave pieces of my heart caught in my throat every time.

I write to uncover what I care…

Humanity

Every generation proclaims theirs is the worst ever — and guess what?

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Every generation is right. The hideous truth is: The collective heart of humankind has always had a deep streak of wickedness, perversity, and deceit.

Today, like no other time in the history of humankind, this has never been more true. Human existence has arrived yet again at a record low…

Image by mohamed Hassan from Pixabay

Do you want to be “somebody?” Good *luck* with that.

In the West, most of us dream of being somebody. Because being a regular anybody just won’t do.

And whatever your ambition, there’s a super successful somebody to obsess over.

But no one can predict the kind of otherworldly success…

RELATIONSHIPS: FRIENDSHIPS

The right friendships add sweetness and value to our lives

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Having friends who add more value than they steal is like enjoying a thick slice of freshly baked sourdough bread with a generous layer of salted Kerry Gold butter and a smattering of local Wildflower honey. Dessert anyone?!

And there are at least four types of valuable friendships to cultivate:

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Allegedly Nicolas Cage (actor) said: If a guy wants you for your breasts, thighs, or legs, send him to Kentucky Fried Chicken. You’re a lady, not a cheap value meal.

Bravo, Mr. Cage.

And I would also add:

I’m not my hair.

I’m not my skin colour.

I’m not the size of my arse or a piece of arse.

And my cup size does not determine my worth as a woman.

In other words, I’m a whole human being with a heart, soul, and mind, not an object for random male entertainment or a fetish.

Listen up, ladies.

Originally published at https://janinehelligar.com.

Bad Feminism?

Because certain “insults” against feminism seem dumb

Image by Gerd Altmann from Pixabay

First, let me be clear: I don’t consider myself a feminist.

In fact, I try my darnedest to avoid labels whenever I can. But one label I do choose for myself is that of truth-teller — I tell the truth. And I tell the truth regardless of whether I belong…

FEMALENESS & CHOICES

As long as we choose to objectify ourselves, human male “pigs” will win and women will continue to be victimized

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A lot of men suck.

And let me be absolutely clear on this point: I don’t give three rats’ behinds if a woman is naked in front of a man. If she hints at or says NO, it’s criminal for any man to victimize her sexually. Full stop.

But in…

Janine Helligar

I’m a butterfly having a human experience as a woman who presents Black

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