I’m a butterfly having a human experience as a woman who presents Black

Image by jggrz from Pixabay — I love how this butterfly’s wings are tattered but she is still a beauty. This could be metaphor for life.

I’m also an empath, a highly sensitive person (HSP), and an INFJ, which is to say: My feelings slice deep. Caring like I do overwhelms me. And injustice and wickedness against anyone leave pieces of my heart caught in my throat every time.

I write to uncover what I care…

Image by mohamed Hassan from Pixabay

Do you want to be “somebody?” Good *luck* with that.

In the West, most of us dream of being somebody. Because being a regular anybody just won’t do.

And whatever your ambition, there’s a super successful somebody to obsess over.

But no one can predict the kind of otherworldly success…


The right friendships add sweetness and value to our lives

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Having friends who add more value than they steal is like enjoying a thick slice of freshly baked sourdough bread with a generous layer of salted Kerry Gold butter and a smattering of local Wildflower honey. Dessert anyone?!

And there are at least four types of valuable friendships to cultivate:

Image by Sharon Ang from Pixabay

Allegedly Nicolas Cage (actor) said: If a guy wants you for your breasts, thighs, or legs, send him to Kentucky Fried Chicken. You’re a lady, not a cheap value meal.

Bravo, Mr. Cage.

And I would also add:

I’m not my hair.

I’m not my skin colour.

I’m not the size of my arse or a piece of arse.

And my cup size does not determine my worth as a woman.

In other words, I’m a whole human being with a heart, soul, and mind, not an object for random male entertainment or a fetish.

Listen up, ladies.

Originally published at https://janinehelligar.com.

Bad Feminism?

Because certain “insults” against feminism seem dumb

Image by Gerd Altmann from Pixabay

First, let me be clear: I don’t consider myself a feminist.

In fact, I try my darnedest to avoid labels whenever I can. But one label I do choose for myself is that of truth-teller — I tell the truth. And I tell the truth regardless of whether I belong…


As long as we choose to objectify ourselves, human male “pigs” will win and women will continue to be victimized

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A lot of men suck.

And let me be absolutely clear on this point: I don’t give three rats’ behinds if a woman is naked in front of a man. If she hints at or says NO, it’s criminal for any man to victimize her sexually. Full stop.

But in…

Death & Clutter

Yes, at birth, we all swallowed a mortal brew

Image by 849356 from Pixabay

As an out of the womb minimalist, I’ve been decluttering my whole life.

But lately, I’ve been even more ruthlessly removing clothes, shoes, books, digital files that don’t serve who I am today. This even extends to people, including family and friends, I don’t love or respect.

We waste so…

Image by mohamed Hassan from Pixabay ~ bumper sticker added by author

I’m not happy about William Shatner’s space voyage even though Star Trek: The Original Series is my favorite TV series of all time.

In fact, I don’t give two rats’ behinds about any of the super-rich idiots or ordinary folks traveling into space.

Here’s why —

We refuse to care…

Without consequences, human beings rarely choose to be better.

No consequences, no motivation to change. And selfishness and evil continue to flourish without reflection or regret or justice.

Look, if someone engages in criminal misconduct and is sentenced to prison, isn’t that a form of “cancellation?”

Well, once a company or person reveals their inhumanity and evilness, why would I continue to do the following?

  • Watch their shows or read their books with my precious time — life.
  • Fatten their wallets with money I traded my time to earn.

So, if someone is free to choose to act the -ism fool or engage in selfish and evil misconduct, I’m free to CANCEL their arses. They’ve earned it and it’s deserved.

Now, can anyone tell me why Donald T****p isn’t wearing orange and still golfing at Mar-a-Lago? Remember, no consequences = no reflection, no regret, no justice.

Originally published at https://janinehelligar.com.

Janine Helligar

I’m a butterfly having a human experience as a woman who presents Black

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