It can seem impossible to love one’s whole self in a world trying night and day to prove to us how unlovable we are in some way.

We all struggle to embrace the parts of us we’ve been taught to find unacceptable.

Sometimes, we do need to grow up and be better. But other times, we are just who we are. And it’s not bad or good — it’s just us.

Once I went shopping to replace a pair of lovely, navy slingbacks. No, I didn’t find a replacement. But I found something priceless that has allowed the young woman I was to finally…